February 14.....  ? Single ?

February 14



You turn the radio on and listen to love songs that make your loneliness seem like a curse, or you listen to frustrated or even depressed people singing over losing their love. This has become quite common and even today there is incredible pressure to have a partner. In some cases, the identity of a person is found in a "boyfriend" and the thought of losing him is devastating. In our culture, being single is seen almost as a disease to be avoided and not a natural stage of life that we can enjoy.

One would think that this pressure would be less within a Christian church, but it can often be worse in the church, particularly if they follow a correct theology; a "virtuous wife" is from the Lord (Proverbs 19:14), and he who finds a wife finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22).The pressure of being single can be great! Worse yet, it’s about to be the day of love and friendship!

I want to share with you some tips of the word of God as being single.


GOD is GLORIFIED when someone single serves HIM.


There are people in the Bible who were single and glorified God, probably the most famous are Paul and Jesus, however there are many more, for example Miriam (sister of Moses) Elijah, Elisha, Jeremiah, and John the Baptist. The Bible says that a single person can focus on the things of God (1 Corinthians 7:32).

When you marry, there is a limit to what you can do (speaking in terms of the ministry).  However, being single you can devote all your focus to the things of God.  The worst thing you can do in your years of singleness is to feed your natural self-centeredness, and ask yourself, how can I use this stage of my life when I have more time, strength, and freedom for my glory? What you should do is invest your singleness in service to God.


GOD is GLORIFIED  when a  Bachelor prepares himself.


Over 92% of people are going to get married at one time or another. So it's important to take the necessary steps to be, by the grace of God, prepared for marriage. The Bible says that man is the head (Ephesians 5:23).  This means that the man is the one who takes the responsibility to provide spiritual, psychological, emotional, and physical needs for his family. In other words, the man has to be a shepherd, protector and provider. As a man, you have different responsibilities: the first is to have such an intimate relationship with God that you can guide a family. Afterwards comes a masculinity that will enable you to take full responsibility for your family so that they can trust your leadership. At the same time, you must have or do whatever it takes to get a job so that you can provide the financial needs of your family. This does not happen the day after tomorrow.  The Bible says that man can’t do this alone, so women, are you ready to help a man to be a good leader? Support and advise him?


GOD is GLORIFIED when A Bachelor is satisfied with JESUS.


Married or single, boyfriend or forever alone, you cannot put your hope in a person (Psalm 118: 8).  If you are single and think that marriage will fill you; you are sadly mistaken.  This reality hit me when I lived in England, I saw a woman alone at Starbucks with a stroller, she had a huge wedding ring, so you could see that she had married a very rich man, everything she had on was name brand, and instead of being happy she was crying and talking to a friend on the phone, telling her how lonely she felt.


So what do we do? What did Jesus say to the woman who had five failed marriages and lived in solitude: he who drinks the water I give him will never thirst! (John 4:14) The filling and true satisfaction comes not from a person.  It comes from receiving the gift of God. Jesus says in Revelation to come to Him he who thirsts and drink, and that means that he is our God and we are his children (Revelation 21: 6-7). In other words, if you are not happy being a single child of God, neither will you be happy being married.


If you do these things you will spend this February 14th too busy to worry about your singleness.


Jonathan Domingo

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